Finding a Balance between “Woman” and “Mother”

26 June 2012 / 4 comments
Category: Mommy Talk

For most of us, the role of “mom” seems to consume us the day we bring home our babies from the hospital.  From lack of sleep, bottles to make and messes to clean…we are left with little time to remember that we were once “women”.  Don’t get me wrong…there is nothing more important to me than my children.  They are my heart and soul and what makes my life whole.  Because I care for them so greatly…I know how important it is to find that balance between being a mother and woman.

  • So many of us tend to “lose ourselves” in the process of motherhood.  We may convince ourselves that it is “ok” to just be mom.  Once we forget “who we are” it will clearly play a role in how we raise our children.  I know for myself that when I lose a few pounds or get my hair done…I find myself dressing nicer than I normally would.  Where I would normally throw a towel on my head after a shower, I am more likely going to take the extra time to blow dry and style my hair.  Doing these little things brings confidence!  With extra confidence, I find I am walking with extra “pep in my step”.  I’m smiling more and feeling good inside.  Feeling happy and beautiful gives me the fulfillment I need to now give my children 100%.  Without treating myself right, how am I suppose to treat my children the way they deserve to be treated?  A question we all need to ask ourselves.


  • Allowing yourself time in your day to exercise, shower and even shave your legs once a week…ultimately makes you feel better.  Feeling more confident will bring happiness, which will radiate through you as a parent.  Children who are surrounded by happy parents are more likely to succeed in life and be confident adults.  It’s a win-win situation for everybody in the family.  Too many of us “beat ourselves up” for taking time for ourselves.  My children go to the gym nursery for an hour, up to four times a week.  I remember in the beginning feeling so guilty putting them in a daycare so I could exercise.  Then I saw the light!  I realized how much stress I was relieving while exercising and how much calmer and more contented I was when picking them up from the nursery.  Furthermore, my children made friends and there social skills improved dramatically.  I met the mothers of the children my kids befriended and formed some amazing friendships. domain archive .  I now have a network of friends, in similar situations as myself, whom I can interact with on a daily basis.  Adult interaction is vital…when you find yourself talking to your friends and husband like three year olds…it’s time to surround yourself by more adults.

Whether you join a gym, take time for a bubble bath when your husband returns from work or simply lock yourself in your bedroom with your favorite book when the kids go to bed…“you time” is essential in being a the best mom you can be.  The dishes can wait till later and the vacuuming will get done…give yourself the time you deserve.  Your kids will thank you, as well as your husband.  After a long day at work…I’m sure there is nothing more he would want than to come home to his “happy wife”!


Written by jodistarr

My name is Jodi, I am 35 years old, I have two beautiful children and as cliché as it sounds...I am married to my best friend. I have a B.A. in Psychology and a M.A. in Education. I did utilize my teaching degree for a few years until I had my first child, my son Brayden. At this point I was not happy with my job and opted to become a stay-at-home mom. To make this financially possible, we downsized on our home and cut back on our spending. These days, we live much differently than we did when we had two incomes, but I truly feel that being home with my children is where I am destined to be at this time in my life. There are days I question my purpose in life and lose track of myself as a person. Using the tools I have learned throughout my journey, I quickly get myself back on track...reminding myself that "everyday is a gift"!

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